This may sound counterintuitive to you. Embrace failure? Nobody wants to be a failure. It makes us look bad, we lose face, we can get laughed at. Most of us will go through life trying to avoid the embarrassment of failure. Failure is one of the worst things that can happen to a person right?
I love to fail. I mean, I really hate it too, but I love to fail. Do you know why? No It’s not because I’m crazy. It’s because failure is how you learn. Let me give you an example. My friend asks me to help them fix something. I have absolutely no idea what it is let alone how to fix it. So I could take the easy route, like most people, and say nope not a clue what that thing is, sorry! But that’s not really helpful. Not to me, or the friend who asked me. So instead I could say yeah sure, I’ll give it a shot. Chances are, if they’re asking for help they already know how to fix it so you’d just be holding things for them most likely. But, you would learn how to fix it by watching them. Maybe you drop something, or accidentally break something. That is gut wrenchingly painful in the moment, but remember:
Strong emotions create strong memories.
You broke it. Now you have to fix it again. You’re frustrated, its an endlessly long struggle, you don’t know what you’re doing, you waste your whole day trying to fix it. But you know what? You just spent a whole day fixing that, do you think you might have retained some of that knowledge? You’re damn right you did. But you had to set yourself up to fail in order to learn from it. If you hadn’t volunteered to help with something out of your comfort zone you would have completely missed this opportunity.
Not everybody likes failure.
Most people don’t like to fail. It comes with all those negative emotions that nobody wants. It’s not worth setting themselves up for failure to learn, they want the easy way. I have three words for these people, and this is something I will push in so many aspects of motivation. You need to learn this in life.
Suck it up.
Knowledge stays with you. Failure is forgotten. There’s always that one guy who will never let you live that down. Ditch that guy. See my post on negativity. You might fail this time, but the more you fail, the more you learn. Eventually you’ll know more than that goof who was laughing at you. You become the go to person because you’ve been there and made the mistakes. You know how to fix them, how to avoid them. You have put yourself out there and made the effort. Pretty soon that guy is asking you for your help because he has no idea how to do what you do. He gives up when he doesn’t understand. Don’t be that person. Be the one who fails. Be the one who learns. Own it and become better.
Do you have any failures that have helped you in your life? Tell us how! Leave a comment below.