Effort: Why it’s Worth Your Time

imagesYU9UE0H4Do you ever have one of those days where you just don’t want to move? You just want to sit back and do nothing all day, whether it’s at work, at home or at school, some days we just kick back and coast through the day.

What a waste of a day.

In the past I’ve talked about people judging other people all the time. This is still true. However, since most people don’t know the people they’re judging they rely on visuals. Basically, they believe what they see you do. So when you have those coasting days you better believe people have noticed and they have already made their judgments of you. That’s why people say first impressions are important. That person doesn’t know you yet so everything they see you do or say filters into their impression of you. So would you rather be seen as the lazy person coasting through the day, or would you rather make a good first impression?

Put in some effort!

I’m going to assume you chose to make a good first impression, otherwise why would you be here? Making an effort in that first conversation shows that person your personality, or in a more professional environment it shows them your etiquette and professionalism. They see you in a more positive light because you show substance and interest and they want to keep talking to you.

But there are many aspects of effort. Maybe you’re trying to impress your boss at work so instead of gathering information for a presentation, you actually make the presentation, jazz it up and hand it in completed ahead of schedule. Maybe your relationship is struggling so you plan a romantic dinner. But instead of going out for dinner you make it yourself at home. You light some candles, put on a little mood music, prepare some dessert and something cute for the two of you to do after dinner.

Don’t fluff it off.

People don’t like to put in effort because it takes…well, effort. They don’t like to put in effort because it puts a strain on them or because it’s hard. But let me ask you something. Have you ever earned anything of value in your life without putting in a little effort? Maybe once or twice. If you’re lucky enough to have things fall into your lap without effort then this page isn’t for you. You get out of life what you put into it and the currency of life is effort. Some of you might say the currency of life is currency actually. And yes, that’s technically true. But if you put enough effort into making money then you’ll make it. If you put enough effort into your job then you’ll get a better one.

People remember your efforts.

Sure people appreciate the minimal things too because I think the little things in life can make all the difference. But nothing wows another person like when you put a solid effort into something. It’s impressive, and it says a lot about you as a person. If you’re looking for that promotion, your boss will remember how much you helped them out with that presentation, If your significant other wasn’t sure where you were at in the relationship, they’ll remember that romantic night you planned out for them. Sometimes putting in that extra effort can be a make or break point in your life.

Yes it’s tiring and yes it’s a lot of work. But take that little bit of extra time and energy you have and put some effort in somewhere. You know where you want to make a difference in your life, start by putting in a little effort.

 

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What Makes You Special?

maxresdefaultWhat’s the one thing you want to find in your life? It’s the same thing everyone wants to find. What makes you different from everyone else? What makes you unique? Why do you matter? With so many other people in the world it’s hard to make your mark and feel special because everyone else is trying to do the same thing. And with over seven billion people in the world, a great deal of options that would make you special are being taken by other people first.

So what do you do?

Start with what you like. Chances are if you like something you’ll be more driven to find your niche, your area of expertise, the thing that makes you special. If you like something then you are motivated to do it, so you put more effort in, you have better and more creative ideas, and you don’t give up on it. That’s what you need. With so many other people looking for their own purpose in life you need to be driven to find something that’s uniquely yours.

Take action.

You have lots of good ideas. You even have a few great ideas. But how many of those ideas do you take action on. If you have an idea for something that can make you special, do it.

But what if that idea is unreasonable or out of my league? Stop. That line of thinking is holding you back. There is always a way to do something if you really want to. You hear stories about it all the time on the news. About how so-an-so made a difference by doing this amazing thing. Why is that person any different from you? The only difference between a person who makes the news and makes a difference and you is that they find a way to make their idea a reality.

What makes you special can be anything.

The size or impact of what makes you special means nothing. Maybe you are incredibly nice and helpful and friendly and you cheer people up just by being around them. Or maybe you make world changing scientific breakthroughs every day because of some unique abilities or knowledge. Neither one of these people is any less special than the other. The only difference is why they are perceived as special. The nice person brightens peoples moods which can be life altering on a smaller scale. The person making breakthroughs can be life altering on a larger scale perhaps but they cannot be compared because they are special for different reasons.

Everyone has something that makes them unique.

You just have to find it. It could be world changing or it could be something small that helps someone get through the day. What you do may not be unique on the scale of seven billion people, but the way you do it is uniquely you. For example, if I wanted to cheer someone up, my thought is to get rid of the bad thing that’s bothering them or make it seem insignificant. But maybe that’s not the way you would do it. Maybe you would buy them an ice cream cone and spoil them with kindness.

Change your view of special.

When we think of standing out and being special we think of doing something nobody has done before, or doing some that earns us favor and adoration. And then when we don’t achieve those things we get disappointed. But it is everything you do that makes you special. You cheered that little girl up who dropped her ice cream cone, you said hello to the lady across the street who was feeling lonely, you called your mom and dad, you made your friend laugh when they were having a bad day. You are what makes you special. It is everything you are and everything you do. Maybe the lonely lady was feeling depressed because she was alone and you gave her hope, maybe your friend went home and did something that made their life better they wouldn’t have done if they were still upset. You have no idea what your actions do to the rest of the world or the people you come across. You make a ripple across the world that is unique to you and only you.

You are special and no one can take that away from you.

 

Tell us what you think makes you special!

Relationships: Make Them Stronger

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If you’re in a relationship, chances are you want things to work out. You finally met that guy or girl you’ve been looking for, maybe you’re married and want to stay married or you just want to build your relationship up. What I’m going to tell you is dead simple but it’s something lots of people seem to forget.

Spend time with them.

How many times have you had errands to do and you split them up between yourselves to make them go faster? Or come home and take some personal time? Sharing activities with the person you care about is essential in relationship building. Being in the same room or house as them does not count. Do things together. What strengthens relationships is the time spent together and the memories you make together. How can you do that if you don’t spend time with them?

Find a hobby.

If you’re struggling to make time during the day then the easiest thing for you to do is to both make a commitment to an activity that you’ll do together. Maybe you both like to go bowling, or golfing. Find something you both enjoy and set time aside to do it. Lessons are a great way to do this. Set you and your significant other up for dance lessons or a sports team. It’s something you have a schedule for, and you are less inclined to miss it because you paid for it ahead of time. It’s easy, it’s fun and it’s something you’ll both enjoy. You’ll probably even make some new friends doing it!

Find some alone time.

If you have kids, or you’re always spending time with friends, you can lose that one on one time that is so important in maintaining that bond. Take a walk, have a little dinner date or go see a show together. Something to get away from everything else and have that alone time together. Making it special or romantic too gets you bonus points.

If you have problems, Talk It Out.

If you get mad at them or are irritated by something they do, don’t hold it back and stew about it. If you do, you’re just going to explode later on about something little and your partner will be confused. Don’t hold it in, talk it out. If you talk it out, even if the other person doesn’t like what you have to say, they will understand that it bothers you. Personally, I don’t like to know that I’m bothering people. So I might get angry that I’m getting in trouble for something, but I’ll generally try and fix the behavior enough so that it’s not a bother any more. But more generally, if you care about someone then you don’t want to be on their bad side. So talk it out, they’ll understand. Don’t walk away from it either. If you walk away you’re just postponing the problem. And when you walk away from a problem you tend to stay away because it’s a negative experience and it is really hard to go back and address it a second time because now it’s a source of frustration. Talk it out instead of getting worked up, instead of fighting. Fighting solves no problems.

So if you want to strengthen your relationship, find the time to strengthen it. Spend time with that person and make an effort. Talk out your problems instead of stewing about it. Make new memories and genuinely enjoy being with that person. You chose them after all. So take your relationship and make it better. Strengthen it. And love them.

Dare to be Different

dareYou are unique. We all are. We are the product of our upbringing, our experiences and our friends and families. We think differently and act independently of everyone else. Then we go to school. Then we go to work.

What happens when we go to school or work?

We are expected to conform. We are expected to act a certain way, behave a certain way, learn the same things, do things the same way. We fall to peer pressure. We want to be liked by other students or employees or people in general. So we change the way we act, the way we talk, the things we like. We change who we are.

Isn’t that just so boring?

I’m a pretty sociable guy so I meet people every day. I hear the same greetings, the same tone of voice and see the same expressions all the time. However, every once in awhile you meet those people who catch your attention. You say hello and you expect a hello back but instead you get a “Howdy there friend of mine!” It throws you off it catches your attention because it’s different. To me those are the most interesting people in the world. The people who don’t conform, who make their own way and stand out despite the rest of the world.

Be yourself.

Don’t be that person everyone else wants and expects you to be. They have no idea if they like the real you. You know, that person that comes out when you’re with your friends and family who’s completely different from the person you project to the rest of the world?

We do it because we’re scared.

What if nobody likes the real me? What if I’m too different? What if, what if what if what if? Just stop. We want people to like and accept us so we project ourselves to be what we think other people want to see. Then hopefully they’ll like us. We don’t want to be shunned from the group and feel isolated. Here’s the thing.

People will always judge you.

We all make ourselves out to be that person we think other people like. But there are still people that don’t like us right? Still people we don’t get along with that we would rather avoid because we’re fundamentally different people. So you know what, who gives a damn what other people think? They’re going to think whatever they want anyway and judge us just as harshly no matter what we do. It’s because that’s what people do. They judge. Everyone makes judgments all day long every day even if they don’t notice. I don’t like him. That food tastes bad. Who dyes their hair that color? It’s absolutely ridiculous.

So what do you do?

You stop caring what other people think. No matter who you are some people are going to like you and some people aren’t. So be yourself. Be the person that’s different because that’s the person people really want to meet. The real you forms the best relationships because they’re real. The real you thinks differently from everyone else and has a fresh new perspective that nobody else has.

Don’t fall into the trap. Don’t conform to be like everyone else. Dare to be different.

 

Have a different opinion? Let’s hear it! I’m always open to new opinions.

Love: Finding “The One”

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This is the dream many people have. Young girls imagine their prince charming who will sweep them off their feet. Boys imagine the girl of their dreams. As we get older we date other people looking for the one. We date all different kinds or personalities and looks to see if we can find the one that matches with us just perfectly. So why is it so hard for so many people? It’s not as complicated as you’d think.

Stop looking in the wrong places.

You will not find the one in a club or a bar. You just won’t. The mindset is all wrong. Nobody goes to a bar or club to find love they go for intimacy and attention. Or just to get drunk, whichever you prefer. You are more likely to meet someone who’s a friend of a friend or someone in one of the social groups you’re a part of. Why? There’s no expectations. It’s more comfortable and less awkward because there’s already a common connection there.

Be happy with who you are.

If you don’t like you, how do you expect someone else to like you? The first thing you have to do before you even think about looking for the one is to become the person that you’re going to be happy living as. Maybe you don’t like your weight, your self esteem, your hair color or your smile. 90% of people have things they don’t like about themselves. You don’t necessarily have to change these things, you just have to find a way to be comfortable with them.

Be yourself.

Form your lifestyle. Do the things you like to do, talk to the people you want to talk to. Don’t be fake to try and make friends or meet someone, or lie or exaggerate to make yourself look better. If you can’t be honest about yourself, it doesn’t really matter who you meet or who you date. You know why? They’re not seeing the real you. Ever. So those relationships will never work out. Even if you manage to make it work for awhile, once you settle in the real you will inevitably come out, and the other people are going to know that that’s not the person they thought you were.

Do what you want to do.

Do you really think you’re going to find someone with similar interests doing something you don’t like to do? Maybe, but probably not. You’re more comfortable doing what you like anyway. It makes it easier for your true personality to shine through and you will definitely come off as a much happier, more lively person. If someone is going to fall for you, don’t you want it to be for something you just do naturally?

Stop looking.

Don’t waste your time. You have an idea of the kind of person you want to be with so you’re naturally biased to choose that kind of girl or guy. But what the heck do you know about who’s right for you? Have you found them yet? Anybody who’s married will tell you the person they married is absolutely not their usual type they would go for. But they’re the person that was right for them. We think we know what’s best for us but we really don’t. So stop looking. Have you ever heard somebody say, the minute you stop looking is the minute you find someone? It’s true. When you stop looking you stop caring. You start living your life and that’s exactly what people fall in love with. If you’re always out looking or trying too hard, it comes across in your personality and your mannerisms. It’s just not an attractive quality and other people see it.

I can’t stress this enough. Be yourself. Stop looking for that someone. Build your life the way you want it to be and once you have it you will find someone who wants that life too. You won’t have to try, and you won’t have to look, it will just come naturally.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Failure: Embrace It

This may sound counterintuitive to you. Embrace failure? Nobody wants to be a failure. It makes us look bad, we lose face, we can get laughed at. Most of us will go through life trying to avoid the embarrassment of failure. Failure is one of the worst things that can happen to a person right?

Wrong.

infographic-learning-and-failureI love to fail. I mean, I really hate it too, but I love to fail. Do you know why? No It’s not because I’m crazy. It’s because failure is how you learn. Let me give you an example. My friend asks me to help them fix something. I have absolutely no idea what it is let alone how to fix it. So I could take the easy route, like most people, and say nope not a clue what that thing is, sorry! But that’s not really helpful. Not to me, or the friend who asked me. So instead I could say yeah sure, I’ll give it a shot. Chances are, if they’re asking for help they already know how to fix it so you’d just be holding things for them most likely. But, you would learn how to fix it by watching them. Maybe you drop something, or accidentally break something. That is gut wrenchingly painful in the moment, but remember:

Strong emotions create strong memories.

You broke it. Now you have to fix it again. You’re frustrated, its an endlessly long struggle, you don’t know what you’re doing, you waste your whole day trying to fix it. But you know what? You just spent a whole day fixing that, do you think you might have retained some of that knowledge? You’re damn right you did. But you had to set yourself up to fail in order to learn from it. If you hadn’t volunteered to help with something out of your comfort zone you would have completely missed this opportunity.

Not everybody likes failure.

Most people don’t like to fail. It comes with all those negative emotions that nobody wants. It’s not worth setting themselves up for failure to learn, they want the easy way. I have three words for these people, and this is something I will push in so many aspects of motivation. You need to learn this in life.

Suck it up.

Knowledge stays with you. Failure is forgotten. There’s always that one guy who will never let you live that down. Ditch that guy. See my post on negativity. You might fail this time, but the more you fail, the more you learn. Eventually you’ll know more than that goof who was laughing at you. You become the go to person because you’ve been there and made the mistakes. You know how to fix them, how to avoid them. You have put yourself out there and made the effort. Pretty soon that guy is asking you for your help because he has no idea how to do what you do. He gives up when he doesn’t understand. Don’t be that person. Be the one who fails. Be the one who learns. Own it and become better.

Do you have any failures that have helped you in your life? Tell us how! Leave a comment below.

Courage: Start Something New

I would like to know about starting something new. How do you find the courage?

                                                                        Sharon Yvonne

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Thanks for the question Sharon! Courage is something that everyone already has, but has to discover on their own. If you really boil it down, courage is just the ability to overcome a fear of doing something, and then being able to act on it.

For me the obvious first step is identifying what that fear is. I’ll use this blog as an example. When I started I had no idea if people wanted to hear what I wanted to say, or if they would like my writing. There’s that fear of rejection that lots of people get when starting something new. There are a few steps you could take from here.

Firstly, I could have tested my writing and got an impression of it from people I trust before I started posting things online. Build my confidence up and overcome the fear that way. Or, I could take the approach that I did which was to stop caring if other people liked it or not. At the end of the day you’re trying something new for you. Not everyone else. So it doesn’t really matter if they like it or not because you’re doing for yourself, it’s something you want to do.

Don’t let others hold you back.

The truth is there will always be people who don’t like what you do. If you listen to those people then you let them win. If you want to try something new, you do it because you want to.

Recognize you won’t start off as a savant.

When you start something new, chances are you’re going to suck. You’ve never done it before, how could you be good at it right away? Some people get away with some natural talent but most of us take the hard route.

For me, the courage to start something new comes from recognizing the obstacles, whether they’re self-imposed or otherwise, overcoming them, and being realistic about where you’re going to be skill wise when you start that something. You have to understand the risks and the challenges, brace yourself for it, and then dive into it headfirst. You’ll make mistakes, you’ll learn from them, and you’ll improve. As long as you understand that mistakes will be made, you’ll be in a better state of mind when they actually happen.

I hope this helps Sharon! If anyone else has tips or advice for Sharon, please submit a comment below. The more perspectives and ideas we can provide, the more helpful we will be!

Belief: Let it Define You

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You have beliefs. I have beliefs. That in itself is not a problem. Unfortunately beliefs are more complicated than that. Our society has made it so that you can’t just have a belief any more; it has to meet certain standards to be considered acceptable. You have to consider other peoples beliefs, their feelings, their religion, the societal impact of your belief if other people disagree. And to top it all off, everyone thinks their beliefs are the right beliefs. It’s all very complicated.

So let’s simplify things.

We can bring this down to one very simple thing. A belief is an opinion, it is not a fact. It is something that you hold to be true based on your life experiences and your knowledge of the world. So really, you can believe whatever you want to believe because it’s something that’s true to you. Here’s the problem.

Not everyone likes your belief.

People are different; they have different life experiences that teach them different things which lead them to discover different beliefs. But beliefs are strong. They come from our life and we are sure they are right because we live by them. So when people come together, beliefs will always clash because all people are uniquely different. When two people fundamentally disagree, there is potential for major conflict. We see it with religions, nations, race, and gender. It’s all just ridiculous though isn’t it?

You can’t be a part of the conversation if you’ve never known the other side.

If a woman tells me it’s easier to be a man in life than it is to be a woman, before this conversation even goes anywhere it is fundamentally flawed on both sides. As a guy I could say oh you know it can’t be that bad, and she could try and beat into me that she’s absolutely right. Has that women ever experienced being a man before? And on the flip side has that man ever experienced being a woman before? Obviously there are rare cases where this is true but for most of us the answer is absolutely not. Those are beliefs that they have. So how can these two people possibly come to an understanding? They both are only living one side of the argument. Sure they have facts and stories and past inequalities that exist. But that man has no idea what the other side is like. Men and women go through different social pressures, they have different responsibilities in life, and they get treated differently in life and face different health issues. But because they believe those things they act on them accordingly. Here’s my point.

Your beliefs define you.

If you go through your whole life believing people are putting you down, then you will act out your life differently than if you think everyone is your friend. Whether they’re true or not, what you believe directs your actions. If you act like your religion is better than somebody else’s religion, it affects how you react and relate to those people that believe differently doesn’t it? We have so many problems in the world because we all believe in different things and we think my way is better. My way is not better, it is simply my way, it is what I believe, what I think is true. Instead of judging everybody else, turn the mirror on yourself first. What kind of beliefs do you have? Why is your way better? You have your opinions and can try to prove that they are indeed better, but maybe it’s only better for you. How would you know?

Stop getting ahead of yourself.

Remember that your belief is just that. A belief. We can all believe whatever we want, but our beliefs have real world repercussions. That’s because we act on our beliefs. So how do you want your beliefs to affect the world? Personally, I want my beliefs to change the world for the better. Trying to help and motivate people, trying to avoid pointless arguments, being nice to everyone you meet. I believe it and I act on it. And so do you. So ask yourself. How are my actions affected by my beliefs? Are you happy with what you see? If not, maybe it’s time for a change.

Believe in the kind of person you want to be.

Our beliefs direct our actions and we want to be the best people we can be. So choose wisely.

Do you have any beliefs you think have made a difference in your life? Maybe someone else’s life? Or maybe you have a completely different opinion on beliefs. Share your thoughts in the comments!

Stress: Free Yourself

stress_pictureStress. It is the mental and emotional strain caused by demanding situations and it has the power to make everything in your life harder.  In the past it guided our fight or flight response in life or death situations. It still does but now our world has changed, and we feel the effects of stress every day. In small doses it’s not a problem, but chronic stress is becoming more and more of an issue.  We have increased responsibilities, time constraints, and added pressure from friends, family and colleagues. We are constricted by laws, rules, cultural norms, expectations and governing bodies. There is so much pressure on us that it’s amazing we don’t just explode. All of this pressure has a negative effect on you.

It affects your body and your health.

I know your health is important to you. Mine sure as heck is to me. So just to drive the point home of how bad stress is for you here is a quick list of all the effects of chronic stress.

  • Headache
  • Depression
  • Heart Attack
  • Stomach Ache
  • Erectile Dysfunction
  • Immune deficiencies
  • Infertility
  • Insomnia
  • High Blood Pressure
  • Heartburn
  • Irregular Menstrual Cycle

There are so many more things and these are just the effects it has on you. But you’re not the only one your stress has an effect on.

Stress affects everyone around you.

When you’re stressed you become much more irritable. Little things bother you. You get emotional and overreact to things it doesn’t make sense to overreact about. While this can be attributed to the stress, this still affects your relationships. It is often people who are the target of your irritability, and people don’t like that. If you’re stressed all the time you will drive those people away. And nobody wants that. We all want to see the regular happy person that’s buried underneath all that stress. So let’s find out how to help.

So how do you combat stress?

Everyone needs a strategy. I personally like to exercise when I’m stressed because it helps me focus my mind on something else, something engaging that can distract me from my stress and help me relax. But everyone has a different strategy. The way I see it you have two major options to choose from. You can either avoid the stress, which is not always possible so this is not the ideal solution, or you can alter your reaction to the stress. When you’re stressed it is extremely easy to get angry and frustrated with everything, that’s our natural reaction after all. But that’s not really helpful. If we get angry and frustrated all we’re going to accomplish is to make ourselves more angry and frustrated. That’s because when we lose our temper we take shortcuts, we get irritated, it distracts us and we cause more problems because we’re acting more aggressive.

Take a step back.

Until you separate yourself from the stressful situation you will never be able to de-stress. You need to give your mind time to breathe. For me I prefer to exercise, but for you maybe it’s different. Find something to occupy your mind that is constructive and helpful in your everyday life and your killing two birds with one stone. You’re building a healthier lifestyle and you’re dealing more effectively with your stress.

Change how you view the problem.

It can’t be a problem if you don’t see it as a problem. Here’s an example that I can relate to. Maybe you can hear the faucet dripping and it is absolutely driving you insane. You can’t or don’t know how to stop it and it’s been going for hours. You can’t get rid of the sound so have fun with it. Since I like to be silly I made a beat out of the sound of the drops in my head into something I liked. Then every time I heard the faucet dripping after that I heard the beat I made up in my head and it made me feel happy instead of miserable. Reframe the problem. Make a solution out of it.

Adjust your diet.

What you eat can also contribute to stress. Caffeine, sugar, alcohol and drugs are all things that produce a temporary high and end with a crash that can disrupt your mood and behavior. Cutting back on any or all of these can have a major impact.

You have to find out which strategy works for you. This is a bit of trial and error and it can take time. Take the time and put in the effort. And most importantly, have a positive attitude. If you’re negative you’re focusing on the problem but if you’re being positive you’re focusing on the solution. Having a positive attitude is beyond helpful. Find what works for you. Then do it.

How do you cope with stress? If you have any helpful hints and strategies, be sure to share them in the comments!

 

Exercise: How To Start Out Right

Exercising is important. The combination of exercise and proper eating habits are essential to living an active and healthy lifestyle. It’s what everybody wants. It makes you stronger, your body works more efficiently and it makes you an overall healthier person. So why does everybody struggle with it? Let’s look into that.

People try and go too fast.

100000-transformation-challenge-training_e_maleEveryone wants to live a better lifestyle and get in better shape. We’re told that the best way to do that is to go to the gym or go outside and get started. That’s where everyone goes right? So what do we do? We jump right into it. The problem is everyone wants to fast track their success. They take on too much too fast. So much that they get overwhelmed, fall flat on their face and give up right away.

Slow down, pace yourself.

This is not a rush things kind of activity. You need to pace yourself. For one thing, your body is not used to working out. No matter what you’re going to be sore afterwards and it’s going to suck. But if you take on too much right at the beginning it’s going to feel like too much and it will put you off of exercising. That’s not what we want. We want to make this into a habit so it’s something we do naturally everyday without having to think about it. We want this to be long lasting. So how do we do that?

Start small and then build yourself up.

If you’re going to run, don’t start running 5k because you’ll never do it. If you’re lifting weights don’t give yourself heavy weight and a massive workout regime because you’ll never do it. If you’ve never done something before how much do you think your body can handle right off the bat? The answer is not much. So you need to start with the not much your body can handle. This depends completely on the individual. If you’re in decent shape from other things, you’ll be able to start off a little stronger. But if you’re completely new to the exercise scene then it’s a different story.

 Start at ground zero. That means you’re going to be doing a lot of trial and error. For absolute beginners, as well as more experienced people, I recommend you start off with a personal trainer. Many gyms offer a free lesson with a new membership, take advantage of that. If you’re really new, you don’t know how to use the equipment, which equipment is for what, how to do the exercises properly, proper form; the list goes on and on. Use that personal trainer and get them to show you as much of the equipment and exercises as is humanly possible. They are an absolute gold mine of information. Use it. They’re going to want to give you a workout program but that takes up valuable time. A 10 minute google search can give you varying basic workout routines and how to form a proper workout routine. Use your brain and figure it out. Use the personal trainer to show you everything else.

Lose the fear.

The reason I say get as much exposure to the equipment as possible is because if you don’t know the equipment it becomes an unknown. That scares some people. If you don’t understand it or are afraid of it you won’t use it and you could be losing a valuable exercise tool. Don’t hold yourself back, you want to have everything you can available to you to make yourself into a healthier person.

Bring a friend.

Sure you can do it yourself. You need to be motivated and disciplined and focused but you can absolutely do this by yourself, and lots of people do. But for those people who are still struggling with their motivation or willpower a friend beside you can be extremely valuable. They push you to keep going, you challenge each other to do better, you improve faster. If you have a day that you’re just not feeling it your friend will drag you out of your slump, you’ll feel obligated to go. Having a friend with you makes it much harder for you to stop because it’s not just you anymore.

Be active in other ways too.

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Don’t just go to the gym. Go for a hike, play some sports, do some mountain biking. Something active. Whatever it is you like to do. If you don’t have one of those interests yet, find one. There are enough things available in the world that there is at least one you will enjoy, do a little research in your area then do some more trial and error. Not everyone likes to go to the gym all the time so other outdoor activities are a viable option. Make it something you enjoy. If you enjoy it you are ten times more likely to keep at it and that’s what you want.

I want you to find something that works for you because I want you to feel good about yourself. Be active and enjoy it. You’ll be glad you did. The other half is healthy eating habits. For more information of forming healthy eating habits see my post Dieting 101.

Have any other tips that worked for you? Tell us in the comments below!